I know that Halloween is a time of catharsis by way of being scared of goblins and witches and all sorts of unspeakable creatures from horror films and the dark depths of our psyches.
But it’s over now.
And we actually need to work on not “Being scared. Very scared”.
Most of us find ourselves in fight or flight mode most of the time. And it seems there are so many things that we can be scared of these days that our early ancestors didn’t even have to think of. They were scared of basic things like being eaten, not having enough food and freezing to death.
We still have those fears (minus being eaten in most cases) and it seems we have added so many other things we can be scared of…
We are scared of the IRA, our credit card company, our landlord, our bank officer, or that if we don’t act the way we should, others won’t like us, or that bots will attack our email signup list, that our kids will not be the best in their class, that someone will damage our car…or that it will need expensive repairs, that we will be rejected, that we will not get what we want, that our business will fail if we start one, that our website won’t be perfect, that we will be gypped, that our internet service will go down, and that we might even get booted off of by the Twitter/ Facebook gods if we don’t play by their rules…
The list goes on and on and the worst part is this vague backdrop of general fear that is not even named. An anxiety of things that are in hiding and waiting to jump out and eat us, like in a horror film.
And I see people in this fear-based thinking every day. This kind of fear-based thinking is a disease that keeps us from living our lives to the fullest and taking measured risk. And I know this fear-based thinking well, because I used to be in it myself.